Category Archives: Women Los Angeles

Thank You Dames!

Thank you to all the fabulous women who joined us June 29th for our event on Women’s Expression of Sex and Sexuality.  The night included scintillating conversation and rousing performances by the devine Khani Jo Zulu Belly Dancer, word wizard and performance artist Flint, sizzling songstress Brie Feingold-Africa  and the beautiful burlesque dancer Penny Starr Jr.  The room was certainly steamy by the end of the evening!

Join us August 10th for our next show at The Vanguard.  Keep checking in as we plan our next topic for captivating conversation and provocative performances.


Oy! Even More Dames!

Do we have some dames for you!  Check out our latest webisode from our first event.  And don’t forget to RSVP for our next happening on June 29 at Vanguard.


Three Dames With A Clue, Authentic Expression, Michelle Thatcher

We recently met Michelle Thatcher via our Three Dames With A Clue Facebook Group.

One day, I got an email from Michelle about networking events she was putting together in Los Angeles. The first thought I had was, “Damn, this dame has gumption.” I asked her if she’d be interested in doing an Authentic Expression, to my delight, she was. As you’ll find out by reading her AE, you’ll see that her POV is from the corporate reinvention perspective and quite a good read.

Please welcome, Dame Michelle Thatcher!

Tell me about you: Your name, pseudonym, where you’re from and what your read is about?
I’m Michelle Thatcher, and I’m from Los Angeles, by way of San Francisco, Chicago, and Dallas. For nearly a decade I’ve been writing about technology for various media outlets; most recently I was an editor at, where I developed and wrote hardware and software news and reviews. Currently I’m doing some freelancing in the technology space and developing a site that taps into my passion for food and cooking.

What does being a woman mean to you?
Because of my background I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what it means specifically to be a woman working in the technology field. Up until a few years ago I would have told you that it was a challenge: it sometimes seemed that I needed to prove that I deserved to be here, while male colleagues were immediately accepted into the fold. And it can be isolating to be the only woman on a team, or to look at upper management and see just one woman, if any.

But in the past few years I’ve seen a dramatic change. Generally speaking (and I acknowledge this is a huge generalization), women are communicators and connectors. And a huge slice of the tech world has become about communicating and connecting with people via the Web. So more women are using tech, and participating in the tech community, and moving into entrepreneurial roles so they can develop even better sites and services. It’s exhilarating.

Have you, are you, or will you reinvent yourself and, of course, what does reinventing yourself mean to you?
Several times! People who knew me as a poet and a Latin scholar in high school and college have expressed surprise that I’ve been covering technology for so many years. I had to do some reinventing when I moved to Los Angeles after six years of being thoroughly enmeshed in San Francisco’s culture. And I’m currently in the process of reinventing my professional self, moving away from writing about technology and toward using that technology to reach audiences.

My personality type is change-averse, so these transitional stages can be difficult. I’ve really challenged myself to learn to be comfortable with uncertainty. And the more life changes I go through, the more I learn about my core self–the parts of me that don’t change. That’s comforting, and it gives me confidence for the next reinvention.



Dames, Dames, Dames, we are filling up faaaaaaaaaast for the 5/11 show. Please RSVP ASAP on eVite or on our site.





Today’s Authentic Expression is by Nicole Criona, a very dear and good friend of mine. We go back a looooong way, having walked a few interesting roads together, to say the least. I love her to pieces.


Nicole is the kind of dame that doesn’t kick you when you’re down, she goes the distance for, and with her friends, regardless of where the road forks or ends.


She’s radiant, brilliant, talented, anthologized and one hell of a bird. It is a privilege and an honor to share her with you.


Crionaberry, spill…

Tell me about you: Your name, pseudonym, where you’re from and what your read is about?

My name is Nicole Criona, I don’t have a writing pseudonym, but I do have nicknames:  Nicki and Crionaberry. I was born right here, in the city of angels, which has made reinventing myself on a large scale slightly more complicated.  I get the impression it’s easier to reinvent oneself after moving to a new city, something I’ve never done. 


My read:  I am the co-owner of, which has been around for 5-1/2 years now.  We run peer-to-peer writers groups throughout Los Angeles.  Our groups are open to all kinds and levels of writers and we focus on getting words on the page and peer-to-peer feedback on works in progress.  I also run three blogs: 


  • My personal blog, Verbs Via Ones and Zeros, at, which I use mostly to talk about things that irk me or interest me.  I unofficially call it a gripe blog.
  • The Official blog, where we post news about, stories of interest to writers, and places to submit writing.  
  • My newest blog is, where I publish events, mostly but not limited to events in the Los Angeles area that may be of interest to writers.

What does being a woman mean to you?


Wow, that is one loaded question.  Being a woman means not being a man.  Yeah, okay, that’s a cheat.  I have to say that I’ve never sat down and thought about this question.  I’ve been surrounded by women my entire life.  I have three sisters and no brothers.  Even most of our pets were female.  It’s just a natural state of being for me, and was never something I sat down and pondered.  As women, so much is out of our control, physically, that the fact that women have the urge to control seems like a perfectly natural emotional reaction to lack of it we often have physically.  I suppose then that to me, being female means finding balance.  Figuring out when to hold on and when to let go.  I think both genders have their unique challenges and gifts.  I’ve never been one of those girls who feels that women should stick together just because they are women.  To me, that is just as bad as men sticking together just because they are men.  I think women who really fit together should stick together, protect each other, and support one another.


Have you, are you, or will you reinvent yourself and, of course, what does reinventing yourself mean to you?


I am in a constant state of reinvention.  When I was in my late 20’s, I reinvented myself as a writer and embarked on a 15-year process of practicing and learning the craft, finding my voice, and having faith that I do have talent that equals my passion, something I will likely never stop doubting.  Well, it wasn’t so much a conscious reinvention as a late discovery of who I was, but I may have never discovered it had I not been open to new experiences and reinvention in general.  I’ve often wished I’d figured that out sooner, and am deeply jealous of people who discover their life’s purpose early in life.  I didn’t find out until my early 30’s that people actually went to school to study creative writing, and I’d never even heard of an MFA in Creative Writing (something I don’t have) until people in my writers groups started showing up with them.  Reinvention, to me, is a constant process of self-discovery and self-tweaking, a lifelong unraveling process that leads us to deeper understanding of ourselves, at our core, and what we will and will not accept and can handle.  That said, some reinventions, however wonderful they might be, might just not be possible.  I’ve been unsuccessfully trying to reinvent myself as someone who loves to do laundry for 20 years now, but I remain hopeful.